How Schools and Parents Can Defeat Bullying｜守护心灵，反对霸凌，让爱充满校园

As children grow up, they are forming identities and ideas about themselves that they’ll carry for life. While it’s natural for us as parents to want to protect them—maybe even storm to the school in righteous fury—a solution that doesn’t include your child can unintentionally take away their sense of power and control.

与孩子沟通：

孩子在成长过程中，他们正在形成身份认知和对自我的认识，而这些会伴随他们的一生。作为父母，我们很自然地想要保护他们——可能甚至会怒气冲冲地去学校“讨个说法”——但在没有孩子参与的情况下解决问题，可能会无意中剥夺他们的掌控感和力量感。

Start by hearing what they have to say about what’s happening. Although you may not be able to promise secrecy, you can promise to take action with them, not for them.

询问倾听：

让孩子说出他们的感受和经历。虽然您可能无法保证保密，但您可以承诺与他们一起采取行动，而不是替他们解决问题。

根据孩子年龄调整对话内容：对于年幼的孩子，对话可能更多地侧重于帮助他们理解正在发生的事情。但要注意：让孩子有发言权始终是最宝贵的。

Adapt the Conversation for Younger Children: For younger kids, the discussion may focus more on helping them understand what’s happening. But letting them have a voice is always valuable.

As children grow older, it can be tempting to let them “figure it out” on their own. However, they likely don’t yet have the social and emotional skills needed to fully handle bullying by themselves. I always recommend talking to your child about strategies for coping, giving them tools they can use. Some options to consider：

1️⃣：Ignoring the bully (not giving them a reaction can sometimes discourage them).

2️⃣：Telling the bully to stop, then walking away with confidence.

3️⃣：Finding a safe place or asking friends for support.

For more specific ideas, excellent advice can be found at these sites:

1️⃣：Bullying. No Way!

2️⃣：eSafety Commissioner

一起讨论应对方案：

随着孩子逐渐长大，让他们“自己想办法”可能会显得很有道理。然而，他们可能还没有足够的社交和情感技能来完全应对霸凌。我总是建议与孩子讨论应对策略，为他们提供有效的方法，如下解决方案请参考：

1️⃣：忽略霸凌者（不给予反应有时可以减少欺凌动力）。

2️⃣：以坚定的态度告诉霸凌者停止，然后自信地走开。

3️⃣：找到一个安全的地方或请求朋友的支持。

更多的应对方法可以在以下网站找到：

1️⃣：Bullying. No Way!

2️⃣：eSafety Commissioner

If your child is unhappy at school, I can guarantee their teachers and the school want to know. Children can be very skilled at hiding their inner feelings, and even the most vigilant teacher might miss subtle signs of unhappiness.

让学校参与：

如果您的孩子在学校感到不快乐，我可以保证学校的老师们会想知道具体情况。孩子们往往很擅长隐藏自己的情绪，即使是最细心的老师有时也可能会错过一些微妙的迹象。

Opening constructive dialogue with the school to support your child’s confidence and enjoyment of school can often lead to real, positive changes.

Avoid the Stereotype of the “School Bully”: The Hollywood image of a relentless school bully preying on their “victim” is, in my experience, actually quite rare. Often, the students engaging in bullying behavior don’t realize the impact of their actions, and the school—familiar with all the students—can help mediate and encourage empathy. Just making everyone aware of the consequences can sometimes be enough.

开启沟通：

与学校达成建设性对话，以支持孩子的自信和学校生活的愉悦感，通常可以带来真实而积极的改变。

避免“学校恶霸”的刻板印象：在我的经验中，电影里那种专门寻找“受害者”欺凌的“恶霸”其实相当少见。通常，实施欺凌行为的学生并没有意识到自己行为的影响，而学校——熟悉所有学生——可以帮助调解矛盾和鼓励孩子们的同理心。仅仅让大家了解行为的后果，有时就足够了。

Of course, in some cases, stronger action may be needed. When that’s the case, the school is best placed to take action while keeping the full context in mind.

与学校合作：

当然，在某些情况下，可能需要更严厉的措施。这时学校会综合考虑后采取行动，同时关注所有学生的身心发展。

This advice is general, and every child and situation is unique. For more specific resources, you can visit:

1️⃣:Bullying. No Way!: Comprehensive information and resources on bullying prevention and response.

2️⃣:eSafety Commissioner: Offers guidance on online safety, blocking, and reporting options.

3️⃣:Kids Helpline: Provides free counseling and support for children and teens.

额外资源：

这些建议是概括性的，而每个孩子和情况都是独特的。

有关更多具体的资源，您可以访问以下网站：

1️⃣：Bullying. No Way!：提供全面的欺凌预防和应对信息和资源。

2️⃣：eSafety Commissioner：提供有关在线安全的指导，包括如何屏蔽和举报不良行为。

3️⃣：Kids Helpline：为儿童和青少年提供免费的心理咨询和支持。

As we work together to create a safe and caring environment at SAIS, let’s keep these key messages in mind:

Bullying is never the victim’s fault. It usually stems from the bully’s ignorance or insecurities.

Others do not determine our worth. Every individual has their unique value.

You are not alone. There are people who want to help—you just have to let them know what’s going on.

You deserve a happy school life. Every student has the right to feel safe, valued, and confident at school.

Together, we can help every child at SAIS feel secure, respected, and empowered. If you or your child ever needs support, we’re here to help. Let’s make this Month of Caring a time of real change and positive growth for all of us.

温馨提醒：

在我们共同努力为SAIS创造一个安全和关爱的环境时，请记住以下重要信息：

霸凌绝不是受害者的错。欺凌行为通常源于霸凌者的无知或不安。

他人无法决定我们的价值。每个人都有其独特的价值。

你并不孤单。有很多人愿意支持你——你只需让他们知道正在发生的事情。

你值得拥有一个快乐的校园生活。每个学生都有权利在学校感到安全、被重视和充满信心。

让我们携手帮助SAIS的每一个孩子感到安全、受尊重，并充满力量。如果您或您的孩子需当您需要支持时，我们随时乐意提供帮助。

让这个“关爱月”成为我们共同成长、积极改变的时刻。